Agreed 100% I don't understand people who put appearance as an absolute must for a relationship. (One of the reasons I hate Twilight) It's such a shallow requirement. How can somebody expect any substance from a relationship when looks are the only thing that are striven for?DeadWolf wrote:Then you don't care about looks as because you're with the person that makes you happy.
I have been told many times that I am quite attractive and I've been dating a fellow who is not so. He's always doing this jealousy thing because "[He's] not much of a catch and have so many options." I cannot express how much this angers me. If I cared about looks to begin with, why would I have even bothered? >> And I have options because I'm good-looking? Yeah, the majority of them being people who care only for appearance. What a great set of options. >>
Deadwolf, those guys are douchebags and I wish you well. Sorry your lady is treating you that way. Sounds like she either doesn't know what she wants or is taking you for granted. She knows you'll always be there, so she can go where ever she likes with little to no repercussions. I have a friend who's going through a situation very similar. The sad part is you can't apply logic to love. It would make things so much simpler and make for so much less heartache, but sadly it's not possible. >>
I'm not an expert on relationships, but here's some advice from me: keep a good attitude about it. If you anticipate it too much, you might come off as always on edge, which she might pick up on and make her anxious as well. At the same time, he always pulling this cycle might be her afraid of commitment. Yes. I said it. Females can be afraid of commitment, too. Expecting too much of her might feed that fear and drive her away again. Communicate, but don't interrogate. Being friends in a relationship is just as important, if not more so, as being lovers. How to go about this? I couldn't tell you. Everyone is different, everyone has their own history and way of dealing with their environment.